Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Training Tip Tuesday: Setting Rules

One of the most helpful ideas I have learned as a teacher is to have clear, established rules. People do best when they know what is expected of them. In my classroom, we have the rules posted on the wall. Now, it is easy when someone disobeys (even me) to refer to the rules. No warnings are needed as the rules sign serves as that warning, all the time. Immediately after breaking one of our rules, a consequence is awarded, and life moves on happily.
In our family, even without kids yet, we decided to make our Robbins Nest Rules. . .
Here are our rules:

There are some good tips I have learned about rules over the years. . . (I have the blessing of getting to start fresh every year, and you can choose to that as well if you need to!)

  • Only use three to five rules. That way, kids and adults can remember all the rules, all the time.

It is important that every know the rules that so they don't feel tricked. Then, they can never say that it is unfair or that they didn't know. These are the rules.

  • Number your rules.

This way, you can say, "You are not following Rule 2. What is Rule 2 in our family?" The child can state the rule to reinforce it. You can immdediately have a discussion and a consquence.

  • Explain your rules.

Notice our's have Scripture verses beneath them to explain them- take time to make sure your rules make sense to everyone expected to follow them). If you kids, especially your gifted kids, don't understand why you made the rules for your family, they will be less likely to follow them.

  • Practice role playing your rules.

I will talk more next week on the importance of role playing. It was one of the most important ways to insure your success at implementing roles, and it is just plain fun!

  • Don't be afraid to change your rules as your family changes.

You may need different rules for different stages of life. Be willing to be flexible. My kindgarten class has different rules than my third grade classroom. Your family with your children will have different rules form your family with middle schoolers. . .

  • Follow your own rules.

You are the best teacher of the values that are important in your family. Your willingness to follow and respect the rules is the best way to teach them to your children.

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