Tuesday, August 11, 2009

How to Teach Assertiveness. . .

In my classroom each year, we always try to focus on the social and emotional lives of gifted students, as well as their academics. This is an area where being trained in understanding giftedness is so helpful to working with this special population.

By nature, I see most (but not all) gifted children falling into one of two extremes.

The first extreme is passiveness. Gifted kids are intuitive and understand that they don't have friendships like their peers. In an effort to obtain these illusive friends, they become passive. They follow after peers, allow decisions to be made for them, and fear stating their own opinions.

On the other extreme, we see aggressive gifted students. Aggressiveness is characterized by a lack of tact. Aggressive students are often bossy, have poor impulse control, and are prone to emotional outbursts (both verbal and physical).

What we are striving for, in order to be successful in making friends and making it in life, is assertiveness. This is the happy medium between the two pendulum swings of passiveness and aggressiveness.

This week, I am going to talk about a few different strategies for helping to teach your child or your students to be more assertive. Check back tomorrow to see how structure helps instill assertiveness.

**For more on this topic, see A Parent's Guide to Gifted Children, by Dr. James Webb**

1 comment:

  1. Great topic - looking forward to more info!


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