Thursday, September 11, 2014

Clear Eyes, Full Hearts

Occasionally my husband and I like a little "brain candy" in the evening and we will watch a popular television show on Amazon prime or Netflix.

(Stick with me, the point is coming I promise.)

When my son had "colic" as a baby (which was actual the start of sensual OE) we got caught up in Friday Night Lights, a show about a high school football team.

The catch phrase of the show was "Clear Eyes, Full Hearts."

After watching several seasons, the phrase sort of stuck even after the show was over.

Recently, we set a goal for our children of looking people in the eyes.  While my young children have never see the show, I have taught them the phrase "Clear Eyes, Full Hearts".

For us, it means looking someone in the eyes so you can really see them.  

Gifted children often have trouble looking people in the eyes and concentrating on what they are saying.  I saw a noticeable difference when we instituted this catch phrase and talked about it frequently.

At first, people were disconcerted when we looked at the and actually saw them.  Now, we're used to seeing surprise first and then excitement that someone is genuinely interested in them!  Instead of having casual, meaningless encounters with people, we have made "short-term friends".  

We met a young man who wears a parachute cord bracelet because he is nervous because his brother is serving overseas.  

We met an actual member of the Cherokee nation who shared her jewelry, explained the symbols and introduced my children to the idea of powwows.

We met a retired college math professor who taught us some quick tricks for mental math.

Even though it was just a monthly goal, my children now do it by route.  They look people in the eye and ask their name, which often leads us to surprising and wonderful encounters just from a silly catchphrase...

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