If anything matters, giftedness matters.
Quick Time Out:
Yes, we hate the name. Of course "giftedness" sounds exclusive like a club everyone wants in. We parents of gifted kiddoes did not pick it and would change it to something that makes more sense if we could. But it is what it is and we are all stuck with it for better or worse. Let's move on...
Regardless of what you call it, giftedness matters.
Because it's real.
Gifted children really exist.
They really do think differently, act differently- are different.
And if you're different it is hard to find a place where you fit in.
"Gifted" is who we are and it defines us. It makes us okay. It gives us a safe place to land and a commonality with others that we cannot find anywhere else.
"Gifted" is our asylum in a world that we sometimes feel as though we are war against.
If you take away the word, none of these facts change. We do not cease to be.
If you give us another name, who we are fundamentally does not change.
But when you give us a name, you validate our existence.
What expectant parents can't relate? I remember each of my pregnancies, deliberating the name of my children. When I was expecting my second daughter, we had originally thought we would name her something and call her by a nickname. About six weeks before she was born, I knew. Deep inside me with a mother's intuition I knew the nickname didn't fit but the name did. To this day, I cringe if someone calls her by the nickname because it is not who she is.
Isn't that how it is with giftedness? Deep inside our core, we know that something doesn't fit. And then we find out about our giftedness and suddenly our soul sighs. We have found a quiet place where we belong and can truly be ourselves.
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